Pluto in Aspect to Venus

Pluto is an extreme planet. It’s the planet of obsession, intense all or nothing thinking and behaviors, revenge and also transformation.

First, you are having t. pluto conjunct your venus, if your venus is at 4-14 degrees capricorn; t. pluto square venus if your venus is in these same degrees in aries or libra;  t. Pluto opposite venus if your natal venus is in cancer. If your venus is 4-7 degrees of these signs, it’s cooling off a bit, but if it’s 11-14 degrees, it’s just beginning.  You’re having a pluto trine if you have venus at 4-14 degrees of taurus or virgo.  And finally, you’re having the sextile if you have venus at 4-14 degrees scorpio or pisces. The closer your venus is to 9-10 degrees of these signs, the closer the orb is.  These degrees all apply to progressed venus too.

Okay, now that the technical stuff is out of the way, let’s see what this transit is all about.

This transit is going to shake up your “venus things.”  A lot depends on which house(s) this transit is happening, but that’s beyond the scope of this article. A lot can be told by the pure energies of both planets meeting.  Venus  is love and beauty, it’s your affections and your romantic notions. It’s also your finances. To a certain extent, it’s sexuality. When the Lord of the Underworld joins with the Goddess of Love, it’s a unique blend of dark, deep, raw, and coarse feelings with refinement, sensuality, pure affection and love. Dark meets light.  Leather and lace. You get the idea. There will be intense struggles around your concept of love, which could be difficult. This is a time when someone’s sexual nature can be changing. I often see this aspect when someone begins a very intense sexual relationship and I see it a lot when someone has an affair or finds out their significant other has been unfaithful. This is because when Pluto meets venus, banal, secure and routine relationships no longer satisfy. Other times, someone having this transit will become intensely possessive, jealous and controlling, even if they were never that way before. It can make people feel their partner doesn’t desire them as they once did. Sometimes this is true, but other times they are just feeling insecure due to pluto touching their venus. It can make someone feel unattractive and insecure in their looks. This is a time when an all consuming love can enter your life, a love to rival all loves, fraught with obstacles and intense feelings of being with another at any cost, think Romeo and Juliet, Samson and Delilah. Unfortunately, with pluto, there’s usually a cost. It may not be as severe as the ill fated couples above, but it will not be easy. Something usually needs to die in order to continue with a love begun under this aspect. It could be an old relationship or it could be an old concept of what love is supposed to be like. It could also be your free will if you become involved with a controlling, negative manifestation of Pluto in another person. Sometimes it’s your self worth, that is, if you sacrifice it to be in a relationship you know is no good for you.  In the extreme, venus-pluto can be an abusive relationship and it can also be sexual assault or in the  less extreme, sexual exploitation or being used for sex. As with all Pluto transits to personal planets, you have to be careful you don’t attract the shadow side of Pluto types. For those who don’t know, each sign and planet have a positive side and a negative side. YOU have control over who you enter a relationship with, not the planets. Therefore, you can avoid the negative pluto types if you’re dating. People always let you know what they’re like as long as you pay attention and listen to them when they tell you. It’s not uncommon for someone who is not good for you to come right out and tell you that. They’ll say, “I don’t deserve you…” or “Why would you want to be with a guy like me?”  Sometimes they’ll even say, “I’m no good.”  Other times, they can be smoother and you have to be on your toes. They may talk very badly about their ex (Why are they talking about her anyway when they’re with you?). They’ll take zero responsibility for the reason the relationship failed. The breakup would have been a nightmare — long, drawn out and bitter and maybe even still be a battle royale.

This is how they’ll talk about you too when it’s all over, regardless of who was wrong. And they won’t take any responsibility for the reasons the relationship failed, so they’ll be doomed to repeat it.  Beware this type.

Of course, there are many breakups that are bad, and people will have done wrong things, but when someone is name calling the ex and still very full of anger and rage, and has no personal insight as to what happened, it’s a sign of emotional immaturity and a sign they’re not ready for a relationship with you or anyone else. In other words, stay away.

You can also be involved in an extremely nasty breakup like this with this type of guy, yourself, under a pluto venus transit. In the extreme, you can be stalked or become a stalker, remember, Pluto can be obsession.  If so, you have my sincerest and heartfelt sympathy. Just ride it out and try not to make them even more irrational than they already are; sometimes with pluto and pluto types, you just have to let them win — or let them think they won, to escape unscathed.

Sometimes in order to win the war, you need to play dead.

Unfortunately, sometimes when under this transit’s spell, you’ll actually want this type of relationship on some level. You’ll want that intensity, that dangerous passion, that unbridled sex, that taboo, that danger.  Pluto will make you feel a bit bad and that can be empowering. A secret relationship seems so exciting and tres chic when you’re hypnotized by the dark lord of the underworld. Your sugar and spice venus is being corrupted, darling, and yes, it can feel good. It reminds me of the lyrics to Lady Gaga’s song, “Bad Romance” which, by the way, is a great song. (I copied and pasted these lyrics from the internet, so I do hope they’re accurate. )

I Want Your Ugly
I Want Your Disease
I Want Your Everything
As Long As It’s Free
I Want Your Love
Love-love-love
I Want Your Love

I Want Your Drama
The Touch Of Your Hand
I Want You Leather Studded Kiss In The Scene
And I Want Your Love
Love-love-love

I Want Your Loving
And I Want Your Revenge

I Want Your Horror
I Want Your Design
‘Cause You’re A Criminal
As Long As Your Mine

I Want Your Love
And I Want Your Revenge
You And Me Could Write A Bad Romance
I Want Your Love
And I Want Your Lovers Revenge
You And Me Could Write A Bad Romance

This is how you can feel while in the throes of a pluto-venus transit. It’s a great song, but it’s not a great love. Choose wisely. Listen to the song but find a tamer guy. Compromise.

You can also enter a relationship that transforms you in a positive way as opposed to holding you prisoner. If the person you choose is mature and evolved, they can be your rock and can help you to grow tremendously. If you were wounded in some deep way and have this aspect, you can finally heal. Maybe you heal through a great and healthy love or you heal on your own, sans lover, but tremendous healing and transformation can be had with this pairing. This wonderful experience is more likely to occur with the easy aspects (trine and sextile) but it can occur with any of them. You have to have your wits about you when you’re under pluto’s spell, ie, pay attention to everything and always, always listen to your gut!  Speaking of which, during a pluto transit your instincts will be heightened to such an extent that if you’re not already plutonic natally, you may be surprised and not know what to make of this new phenomenon — trust it.  If something or someone seems off or a threat, listen to your inner voice and non-threateningly get yourself out of the situation or away from the person.  Similarly, if you feel that someone is good for you, you’re probably right. Johnny Cash and June Carter are a good example of this type of transformative love. She got him to get his crap together. She was good for him. She wouldn’t be with him unless he stopped drugs, so she also had good boundaries and good self esteem. It doesn’t always work out this way, but if it’s going to, you need to make them walk the line like she did. No empty promises will do. They need to prove they’ve changed before you even allow them to date you.

Finances can be radically changed during a pluto transit, because venus also represents money. Funds can dry up and this can be a riches to rags kind of time. Jobs can be lost, businesses can go under, houses can be foreclosed….pluto doesn’t always play nice and when he doesn’t, he’s extreme in his ravaging.  The US was undergoing a pluto-venus opposition, so this is what happened to our country’s finances. Thankfully, it’s at its end now, though we are still undergoing pluto transits to our sun and jupiter.  If pluto affects your finances, it will be like this normally, but it is any transformation of finances, so it can be the opposite and you become wealthy. A lot depends on your chart.

If your health is affected under this transit, it can be venus things, like reproductive issues, throat or neck issues, or vanity issues like acne or some other malady that affects the way you look. A pluto transit to venus can make you decide you want to transform your looks through plastic surgery. You can lose weight if you start a diet under this influence, because you may want to transform your body. Be careful not to veer into an eating disorder, because pluto can make one go to extremes and become obsessed with these things.

If you go to excess in drinking or drugs, pluto touching your venus can force you to quit because of health issues that arise from these excesses — or else. It can also be a time when someone begins to drink or delve into drugs, setting them up for an addiction problem down the road.

Oftentimes, pluto brings external problems to us which we have no control over. In these cases, we just need to deal with what’s going on in the healthiest way possible. I always tell people to exercise or take up yoga or meditation during pluto transits, because it’s a healthy way to direct all of the energy coming at you and allows you to regain some control of it. Drowning your sorrows in alcohol, drugs, or any other unhealthy outlet is not a good idea. Psychotherapy or counseling is very beneficial during pluto transits too. If that’s not your cup of tea, then keeping a journal is a good alternative.  Basically, anything that you can totally and completely immerse yourself in will do. It can be scrap-booking, so long as you’re obsessed and passionate about it. Pluto transit venus may be difficult, but you will gain such valuable insights into your love nature, or your relationship with money or other relevant things, that can be priceless once you emerge from Pluto’s grasp and leave the underworld.